There’s one way to easily annoy a lot of Disabled people: infantilize us.
The pro-Neurodiversity blogosphere has taken to decrying bits of this article https://spectrumnews.org/features/deep-dive/the-lost-girls/ which talks about how hard it is to diagnose women and girls and anyway. We fully agree with that, because we know we’re social chameleons, and is it EXHAUSTING. But there was a “throwaway” comment and that’s the one that we’re fighting about. The gist of it is that if we’re successful at navigating society, then maybe we shouldn’t be diagnosed as Autistic. Here’s the most popular example right now: https://visualvox.wordpress.com/2016/07/29/protecting-us-from-the-hazards-of-autism-diagnosis/
In other words, we should be denied “medical access” to our “people” because we’re “passing” for neurotypicals. Let that sink in. Now, let’s change it up. A Deaf person goes in for a diagnosis and is never told he is Deaf so his Deafness is irrelevant and might hurt his feelings if he knew. After all, he’s successful at navigating in a society not made for him. Or worse: a Black person is denied that she is Black because she does just fine in the dominant, white society and to be told she is Black might make her feel sad.
This is ridiculous, right?
Earlier, I posted how diagnosis should be a choice and I believe that still, however, it is probably good to unpack a few things here.