As a school principal and a parent, I get a few things about education in a way that other parents and principals might not.
First, I get that school is a “right” in a theoretical sense.
But I also get that administrators have to balance rights against each other. In other words, they have to make school safe for the majority with the limited budgets they have.
It was that understanding of reality that made me decide to homeschool our Autistic son. There is no way I can expect him to be in a group of other chatty people and have him have any sense of happiness. Perhaps if we had found my school with me as leader when he was younger (as in, pre-kindergarten in his case; his school damage was gigantic), it might have been different. We didn’t, and he doesn’t even like the idea of going back to school, so he won’t at this time. I figure, that’s okay, we’ll make it work.
But we have enough privilege to be able to have jobs that involve working at home. I used to score standardized tests at home, and my husband does testing for an Autistic-friendly company.
Not everyone has that, which is why I’m glad to have my school.
As a Catholic school principal, I am not merely charged with getting kids ready for college. I am, however, charged with getting them ready for college, work, to be a mom, dad, religious sister or brother, priest, etc. as well as getting them ready for heaven.
We take the long path. We are focused on much, much more than grades and college-preparation. It is a slow, winding journey with many missteps. We sin, we fall, but we confess and we learn and we do better the next time.
It is not as easy as preparing kids for college. There is so much more at stake in a Catholic school.
My kids know this and are good at forgiving each other for mistakes of all kinds. At least, they normally do. Long-term parents, also, know, that little dust-ups shall pass, and they move on pretty fast because they know the kids love each other and this is a safe place.
However, sometimes parents can be a bigger issue than the kids.
I had an issue this week with a parent who was upset because a student struck her child. He was uninjured. He hit back. She was uninjured.
Here’s what happened, and how the parent over-reacted because she was too busy advocating for her own child at the expense of other children.
Don’t be this parent.
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