In Autism circles, we talk a lot about the Autism Mother. Typically, this person writes a blog and/or publishes posts on Facebook or Twitter to tell anyone who will listen about how his or her child was robbed from them due to Autism. Many of them insist it was the MMR vaccine, but others, who feel a bit more enlightened by science, are taken in by the Autism Speaks mantra about how Autism is a growing epidemic.
An epidemic that must be stopped at all costs.
For some background on why we get irritated with the Autism MomTM syndrome, visit this link to learn more about the Autist who created this term and why we take issue with these moms (or dads).
See, part of the reason why we get annoyed by these parents is because they make the narrative always about them. When you’re a parent, though, isn’t it supposed to be about your kid and what he or she needs, and not about what you as the parent needs? But for some reason, society allows this inverted family structure to continue: mom’s life sucks because of her child’s very existence.
You don’t get to do that with other issues without someone doing a PSA about it. I vaguely remember they do Public Service Announcements about not emotionally abusing your kids that are basically just this narrative: children hear you; don’t hurt your children by what you say. The words “I wish you were never born” come to mind…anyone else remember this ad that used to play?
Anyway, despite the fact that we’ve been told for years that this emotional abuse through words is wrong, for some reason, society gives these moms a “pass.”
And the thing of it is, the longer they whine and complain and are given all sorts of pats-on-the-back about how hard their lives supposedly are…that’s when the Eugenics monster shows up again, trying to pull us Autistics out of the gene pool so as to make neurotypicals’ lives better.